Yes, Suzie, I know, but if someone hurt someone you loved and were close to, what would you do?
Me, I just want to know why?? This BS that he was upset because of some stupid friend, well, it doesn't make sense, if he loved her and wanted to be with her, I think he was feeding her a line of s h * t, in fact, I think he was lying to her the whole time, I've read the e-mails and it just doesn't add up. He's a first class jerk, who uses the internet as his stage, he writes these long articles under another name half the people hate his writing, the others are just so stupid thinking he's kid wonder. He has no b*lls, no backbone, just a jerk with a computer for a friend. I hope that he choked on his dinner yesterday, they'll be no more holidays for my Angel. Hrrrrr.

I hear what your saying I really do, but if it were me and he hurt me and walked away, I'd be mighty pi**ed, I walk right up to his front door, knock and when the door opened, I'd kiss him right on the lips and hug him, and when his wife asked who is this, I'd let the whole story fly, then walk away. If she forgave him, oh well, she's stupid, she'd probably never trust him again, and if she told him to get out, well, then my job was done, he could sit on the curb and cry, he brought it all on himself.

But that's if it was me, and it wasn't. We can talk all day/night about this loser, he will not respond because he's a coward, a loser and a brainless twit, how's that for name calling, he only has one person to answer to and when that day comes that man upstairs will judge him for all the wrongs he has done. Only he knows what he did, if he can live with it, so be it, but to hurt her, leave her and not look back, even as she is dying, well, that takes a cold-heartless ba*ta*d, if he was the one dying, I'm sure that she would have been close-by, at the hospital, or just near so as not to get the family upset.

Jose, he had his reasons and still has his reasons, we can only guess. Be well my friend.

Suzie, I love the name calling LOL, I'm sure that he's been called worse, I'm sure that he still reads the boards, loser that he is, thats all he has to do day in and day out read the boards and tell people lies about himself, he's done it to several other people but they didn't fall for his s h i t. He will get his just do one day and I hope that I'm around to see it or hear about it. I understand that his wife also is a brainless twit for staying with this moron for so long well over 40 yrs., she should have dumped him years ago. Thanks for the reply, I love the name calling LOL.

Jose, I deal with human tragedy everyday, families fighting over the stupid things, children figthing over $500 or a stupid chair or pictures. So I can understand your grief over this lowlife moron and that's what he is, a lowlife who prys on gullible women, he gets a charge out of it, makes him feel good about himself, he probably doesn't get much from his family or brainless wife, I'm being nasty, I don't know the woman but if she had half a brain I'm sure she's seen what others haven't.
He was probably on his best behavior with your Angel, sweet, thoughtful, funny, but at some point he must have showed his true colors, and maybe she also saw them, if he had a fit over her talking with someone else, he's a control freak, a loner with not alot of friends, maybe even having non communication with his children/family. I know it eats at you, but he's soo sure that he was right, remember control freaks are always right, that no matter what anyone says he's right, he has no remorse for anything, it wasn't his fault would be his reply and he feels no remorse, after all, she was just a internet friend, no matter how involved they were, he feels nothing. I've been in family law for many years, think I've seen it all, so this character is nothing new, he's not different, he's just a lonely old man searching for his youth again and looking for someone to love him on his terms and he'll never do anything to leave his wife, he has the best of both worlds he can escape in his mind to that place where he is young and in love for several hours a day, it keeps him calm, happy and away from reality. Sorry to say Jose but your Angel would have waited a lifetime for this jerk, he was a very good liar, and he had her believing the bull he was throwing her, sad that he did it to your Angel, it should have been someone else, he's a heartless piece of s(*&.

Suzie, I think you nailed it on what this man is like, I never met him, only seen pictures of him and there are times I want to really believe he meant no harm to my Angel, that he really cared/loved her as much as I loved her. Yet when I think of how he treated her in the end, I can't believe that he loved her at all, he had a mean streak in him, that he didn't show very often, but still mean or maybe it was frustration for a better word, that he couldn't or wouldn't leave, in my own mind, he made a big mistake, he would have had a woman that loved him and would have put up with almost anything (she had a heart as big as The Bronx) and would have given anything to be with him, yet he choose to stay where he was with a loveless marriage. If given a second chance to be with my Angel, nothing on this earth could have stopped me, nothing, family, job nothing.
Yet he could have had it all, and he let it go till the day I die, I still can't understand why he was so mean and cruel, why??????????If he wanted to end it, end it like a man, write or phone and give your reasons and say goodbye, but the bas*() didn't do any of that, arrrrrr
I want to choke the bas*(()*&&. Suzie, you should have been a shrink, cause I think you have his number. LOL. Thanks for sharing.

Jose, we can talk all day long about this jerk, maybe thats what he wants to be the center of attention, but either way, he did what he did, if it meant nothing to him, oh well, if he did these things and regrets it, well, then he has to deal with it. He's a lonely old man who thought he could be young again and enjoyed the attention, but when push came to shove, he couldn't or wouldn't leave his dimwitted wife, that's his call, he had no intention of leaving his stupid wife/home/family and that is that. He knew in his heart he wouldn't leave and he played along, because if your Angel found out she wouldn't have given him the time of day, I'm sure, she couldn't have been stupid after all she was a business person with brains and I'm sure could read through his BS, but he was clever, he played the part so well, he fooled her and she paid the price. Its such a sad thing when you think about it, he could have handled it differently, but I think he really wanted to cause her pain because he too was hurting, just my thoughts on this whole wacky thing. Maybe some day you'll hear for yourself what his thoughts were or what caused this to all happen and why. That will be $200.00 for this counseling service. LOL

Suzie, there are times I sit and just think over and over again, about this whole situation and I get so mad, this jerk didn't know nothing about nothing, she made sure he didn't know, she thought by letting someone else help her with her medical problems that she could avoid hurting Mr. Wonderful, she knew in her heart that he wasn't going to leave half-witted wife he was only fooling himself, if he had left and she survived, they would have had 6 yrs together, 6 years of love, 6 years of being together and being happy, but he was a gutless man, I really wish with all my heart, that when his day comes and he leaves this earth that she is waiting at the gates of heaven and spits in his face for all the hurt he caused her. Meanwhile, Mr. Wonderful, I hope that he is very proud of himself, he not only took from me the one person I adored/loved/idolized he took part of my heart and soul, for that I will never give him peace, I hope he hurts as much as I do and even more. Suzie your check is in the mail. LOL.

Jose, we all have loses in our lives, family, friends, people we work with or just people that pass through our lives, this person who hurt your Angel, just maybe he a very lonely person and she gave him some sense of dignity, and just maybe her kindness to him, gave him a new lease on life, made his days more bareable.
Maybe he lived in two worlds, his computer world and his real life, and maybe his real life wasn't what he wanted, he fell in love with a real person, and maybe he didn't mean to hurt her, maybe his two worlds collided and he couldn't handle it, too emotion to deal with two people he loved. I hope that one day your heart will heal, and that you find some resolve.
To carry around so much hate, well, its not good for you healthwise. Maybe some day he'll tell you what pushed him over the edge. Maybe.

Everything you write is soooo true, I have mixed emotions on this whole thing, I try to understand from one point of view then the other. I know what its like to hurt the one you love, I know the pain of lossing the love of my life and I can't for the life of me, understand why he didn't try to mend her broken heart or at least offer an explanation. I will carry this with me forever, and I'm sure that he does also.

Dear Jose, you will drive yourself crazy, this person doesn't give a c**p, accept that and move on, he did what he did and apparently didn't think twice about it, he decided to stay with his drab little women, family and be bored to death with life. You on the other hand, did what you had to do and have held together all her old friends and family. Jose, she smiles down on you everyday, don't forget it.

Donna, I thought as time went on that it would get easier, I thought I would move on and although not forget, just put it aside. Its a open wound, its never closed, there are times I hear a song or even a freakin smell, and I swear she's in the room, strange things as I've told you have happened, I can't explain it, I don't try to stop it, it just happens. I know she's with me always, and one day we will be together for all eternity.

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Originally posted by Donna Rizzi:
Dear Jose, you will drive yourself crazy, this person doesn't give a c**p, accept that and move on, he did what he did and apparently didn't think twice about it. Jose, she smiles down on you everyday, don't forget it.

I have to agree with Donna, if this man didn't give a darn, well its his own fault, he could have had a better life with your Angel, but I guess he didn't want to be the bad guy or something like that, he probably threw away a chance to be really happy. Sad, isn't it, that you get a second or third chance at happiness and he let it go. I'm sure that your Angel smiles down on you everyday also. I didn't know your Angel but in the end maybe its possible that she forgave this poor soul of a man.

I'd be pi**ed if she ever forgave him, he was a control freak, I think, not sure, why else would he drop her like that without any explanation. I knew her well enough that if something were wrong, I wouldn't hesitate to call and find out if everything was ok, we had a understanding for years, that I would always be there for her no matter what, good/bad boyfriend or no boyfriend. He could have called her or e-mail her to call him so he could tell her this or that, but he didn't he left her broken hearted, and in sheer desperation. I want to know WHY. This man claims to love his God, well he can answer his God one day and I hope that his God is tolerate of his misgivings.

HAPPY THANKSGIVING DAY JOHNNY BOY

REMEMBER TO SAY GRACE AND GIVE THANKS FOR ALL YOU HAVE.

I guess you haven't gotten any answers yet from this Johnny. I hope that you had a good holiday and let this rest for the day.